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Do you have any other advice if a person is struggling with feeling lonely or alone?

Q: Do you have any other advice if a person is struggling with feeling lonely or alone and they currently did not have any friends they can spend time with because: most of my friends are married or have a very active life, and even when I'm with them I still feel lonely. -- J in Maryland

A: I empathize with you, because I went through this as well before I got married.  Here are some suggestions:

1. Don't give up on your married friends.  I think it's very healthy for single people to spend time with married couples to observe how they interact and learn about relationships.
2. Try to get involved in things at your church or other churches that will enable you to meet new friends, and not just singles events.  There are many peoplein the same situation as you.
3. Use this time to deepen your relationship with the Lord and to serve Him.  Not only will this give you fulfillment but it might also enable you to make new friends as you serve Him.
4. Don't focus on what you don't have but, rather, on what you do have.  Be thankful for the many things God has given you, and appreciate them.
5. Ask the Lord to reveal to you those things in your life that He wants to refine during this time.
6. Finally, keep praying to God for the desires of your heart and don't give up (Luke 18:1-8).

I was nearly 45 before I finally got married.  God taught me a lot about patience and waiting on Him, and I'm still learning. 

"But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness..." (Matthew 6:33)