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I don't know whether or not he's a Christian.

Q: Hi! I have a question about a situation with a guy I met at work, not online. Can I ask it here? Here's the situation: He asked me out, and since he seemed like a nice guy I told him I'd go out for coffee with him. When we got together I had a great time. He's funny, intelligent and he's also handsome, and he wants to get together again. The thing is, I don't know whether or not he's a Christian. What should I do? Marie in Indy

A: Marie, of course you can ask that question here. :) It's a great question and one that many single Christians will face at some point. First of all, I want you to know that I appreciate the fact that you're already thinking about where this guy is with the Lord. I assume that's because you believe you should only date Christians, and for that I commend you! (For more about Christians dating non-Christians, please read Equally Yoked Dating.) Here is my suggestion. If you haven't already agreed to go out with him, wait for him to ask you and them just be honest with him and tell him about your relationship with the Lord and then tell him that it is important to you to be with someone who shares your love for the Lord. Of course, do this in your own words in a way that genuinely expresses your thoughts and feelings. If you have already agreed to go out with him again, then you could do the same thing while you're out with him, or you could talk with him before you go out. I believe you should address this as soon as possible, before going on any additional dates. The longer you wait, the more difficult it becomes because you can begin to have "warm and fuzzy" feelings which can interfere with good judgment. Be strong and don't compromise. God wants you to have His best, not a consolation prize.