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I believe in only dating Christians. How do I explain this to non-Christians?
Q: I'm young- 16 years old- and I'm a strong Christian. I believe
solely in Christian dating, and I have never had a girlfriend (thus
far) because of my beliefs. In general, people my age find this behavior
both pathetic and downright stupid. I have, however, turned down non-Christians
on previous occasions. My problem is that I find hard to tell them
why I don't date non-Christians. I have trouble finding a way to share
my religion in a way that doesn't appear to be arrogant, conceited,
and haughty (so that it doesn't sound like "Sorry. I'm a Christian.
And we Christians don't date your kind."). So how can I tell
others about my beliefs, proclaim the news of Christ, and yet show
that I am not arrogant and boastful? - Cameron
A: Hi Cameron,
Thank for your writing. I really respect your commitment to only dating
Christians, and I believe God will honor and reward you for your faithfulness. As
to how to handle this issue with non-Christians, that is a difficult issue for
sure. I don't believe there's one right way to do this, but there's a right
way for each person. In other words, some people might handle it one way
and others might handle it differently, but both ways could be pleasing to God. Here's
one possible way of approaching it:
"I don't know if you're aware of this or not, but I'm a Christian, and my
relationship with God is very important to me. It's important to me that
the person I date also place a high priority on their relationship with God,
otherwise I don't believe the relationship will work. Do you have any religious
beliefs?" This can be a good way to initiate a spiritual conversation
with them.
There's a book titled, "Share Jesus without Fear" by William Fay that
gives a simple way to share your faith with people in a way that is non-threatening
and non-offensive. The first question is, "Do you have any religious
beliefs?" I highly recommend it.
God bless,
J
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