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Is french kissing okay?

Q: Hi. My situation is the following. Me and my boyfriend have known each other for over 5 years. We had feelings for each other on and off for 3 years but the problem was that i didnt feel like it was in God's will for us to be together at that time and he respected that so we remained as friends (more like best friends). After we prayed and left it in God's hands, we finally decided to start a relationship. We were in love before we were even a couple. My issue is that i've always been like a conservative girl. I never dated anyone before him because i always wanted to make sure it was in God's will. So he actually was my first kiss. The thing is that i dont know if french kissing is bad. See, i think that my problem is that i think too much of it because i waited a long time in order to be in my first relationship so im probably in that mentality like it's wrong. BUT I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!!!! He truly is a blessing in my life and he is a man of GOD. He respects my decision but im still confused -- M. in Cleveland

A: Dear M., Please read my article, How Far is Too Far?. It should pretty much answer your question.  This is a difficult question, but I believe it's always better to err on the side of conservatism than go too far and regret it later.  If he's the one for you, eventually you'll be able to do everything (after you're married).  You'll never regret being too conservative before marriage, but plenty of Christians regret having gone too far.