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I was told by a Christian man, that a true Christian woman will not date but she will marry the first Christian man who proposes.

Q: I was told by another Christian man, that a true Christian woman will not date but she will marry the first Christian man who proposes. He says that this is what God wants us to do. If we are equally yoked, then there is no reason why two Christians should not just marry. He says that I am allowing my flesh to get in the way if I do not agree.

Should I just marry a man because he is Christian and I am Christian. Is this enough to keep me happy in a marriage? Should I just marry a man because he says he loves God. What if I don't like his personality? Is this my flesh getting into the way? Should I focus only on his love for God?

PLEASE HELP! -- T.

A: Hello T, What this "Christian man" is telling you is absolutely false!  Don't let him manipulate you.  If you were my daughter I would tell you to stay away from him, and if he won't leave you alone  you should go to your pastor and tell him what is going on.  Who is he to tell you what God wants you to do?  You should spend time getting to know any man you're considering for marriage and if your personalities don't go together or if you're not attracted to him, you shouldn't marry him, because those things most likely won't improve with time.  This man sounds like someone who will want to dominate his wife and control her by twisting the Bible around.

Yes, you should look at a man's love for God, but other factors are important as well.  If you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want to make sure that you are compatible and that you will enjoy being with this person.  The man you described scares me, because if he really believes what he is telling you, who knows what else he might say or do.